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What is Paradise???

Life can be painful at times. No doubt about it. I see it all the time when working through the process of healing. People often say “I can’t take this amount of pain” or “How can I get away from this pain and return my life to a more peaceful state”. What occurs to me is that we live in a world that gives us the message that pain is something we avoid and when it occurs, which it does across our entire lives, the first thought is get rid of it. I am not saying that experiencing life’s painful moments is such a wonderful thing and in fact when it hits, its certainly horrible. Someone we love lets us down or betrays our trust or doesn’t care about us (one of our greatest fears is that we don’t matter) and when that moment hits, our first thought from the over thinking brain is to make sense of the pain by wanting to know “why” did this happen.

Whether we realize it or not, we humans are meaning makers. Whenever we are stuck in traffic or someone hurts us, our first question is why is this happening and whatever thought we come up with is an attempt to restore that ground under our feet. Our frantic brain scrambles around seeking answers (oh there was an accident that’s why traffic is so jammed). We might also even come up with an answer such as this happened because (see the meaning making) I am unworthy of love and respect and the list goes on and on. The problem is that when we leave this important work of seeking meaning to a brain that has constant chatter and takes both sides of any argument, we tend to get more confused and overwhelmed.

Alas!!! There is also an opportunity here to change a situation of pain to one that includes pain but changes the meaning of that pain. What if you don’t need the answer right now? What if for just a moment you suppose that all wisdom is born from painful situations and that every time a painful moment hits, you are on the cusp of learning something new? How might his change your reaction to painful experiences? What might happen? Oh the fearful ego brain with its constant chatter will try to tell you, “WTF, you have to have an answer for this or something bad might happen” or “you don’t know how to handle this situation but I am here as your ever present servant to assist you by telling you to read his/her emails, find out who they are texting so you can be sure this won’t happen again, or try to change your bosses mind about you so you feel more secure in your job” and on and on and on it goes spinning you down a path that creates even more chaos and confusion. FEAR!!!

Getting to paradise means that you stop listening to the constant chatter and when pain hits, you create space for it by being compassionate with yourself in that moment of pain. Learning to realize that you can in fact rise above the pain and grow as a person (notice I said learning) as a result of the pain. This gives us confidence in our ability to know that no matter what life throws at us (and it will time and time again) that we can in fact be compassionate with ourselves and begin to grow as a human as a result of painful moments.

Submitted By: Donna Murphy
Website:http://dmmurphy.com

Donna Murphy holds a Master’s degree in Social Work and is registered with the Alberta College of Social Workers. She is a therapist who specializes in individual/couples and family counselling, a Certified Meditation Instructor, and is Certified in Adult Education. Her approach is to use a combination of spiritual and various counselling techniques.

Donna’s private practice involves working with couples, co-parenting, blended families, parenting issues, stress/anxiety and healing from trauma. Her approach to therapy integrates her meditation, spirituality, mind/body connection and cognitive reshaping. She has been practicing for 11 years in a variety of settings such as government, employee assistance programs, lunch and learn sessions and working for non-profit organizations .

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An Exhibitor’s Show Kit List – do you have one?

Are you professional Exhibitor or maybe new to the trade show industry?

Over the years, I’ve participated in several trade show events and if there’s one thing every Exhibitor should have, it’s a container filled with items that you should always take with you to all your events.

When it comes to participating at events, I’ve learned through trial and error all sorts of things to help me to create a successful experience. Trade shows can be stressful if you’re not prepared. I remember my first few ending with me looking like I’d been through the ringer. It doesn’t have to be that way.

As much as it pains me to say it, it pays to be somewhat organized. Now I’m a fly by the seat of your pants kind of girl so organizing is not really my fun thing to do. “It’ll all work out in the end” is something I say frequently. Sure, I did well at the shows but I was frazzled at the end of those three days. Seriously frazzled.

One of my very first lessons to learn and I am happy to share with you, just in case you’ve yet to experience a trade show, is you absolutely have to have a container filled with stuff to get you and your booth up and running and stay running for 3 days. I’ve created a list for you to have a look at and download if you like.

To begin getting your Trade Show Kit together, start creating a stack of the following items:

  • Scotch tape
  • Duct tape: get a little colourful with this. There’s tons of cool duct tape patterns, colours and flavours to choose from and you’re not wrapping a pipe. Find something that will at least look nice in your booth if you have to go public with it.
  • Scissors
  • Paperclips
  • Stapler
  • Package of Sharpies
  • Highlighter
  • Printer Paper - not too much.  Enough for a sign or two if you forget yours at home.
  • Note pad
  • Pens – not just one. I’ve gone through tons of pens at shows for my draw box. Unless you attach them to your table or draw box, they just walk away…
  • Ruler
  • Extension cord – I usually bring about a 20ft cord so it’s not stretched out across the floor of my booth creating a tripping hazard.
  • Power bar – very handy if you need more than one cord or have lighting in your booth.
  • Zip strips – these work great if you’re out of S hooks for hanging your banner.
  • Cutters for zip strips – this is a must if you’re using zip strips. Scissors just don’t cut it.
  • S hooks
  • All in one tool or a couple of screw drivers and a pair of pliers.
  • Your choice of head ache remedy, allergy remedy and cold meds. There’s nothing worse when you’re not feeling well at a show and you can’t leave.
  • Business cards
  • Calculator
  • Nail clippers and nail file – seriously. It’s just not attractive to be picking at your fingers or munching on a hang nail.
  • Band-Aids
  • And last but not least: Cash box. Seriously. It’s easy to forget when you’re in a hurry.

Now that you have all your items collected, pop over the store and pick up a sturdy plastic box to put it all in. You could go with cardboard but if you plan on doing more than one show, it won’t last.

Once you have everything in your plastic container, get out one of your sharpies and mark it as your show kit. Make sure everyone in the household knows that this box is not to be raided - not even by you. As tempting as it is, your show will run much for smoothly if everything is where it should be when you need it.

One last thing, it wouldn’t hurt to leave room for a pair of good foot wear. Your feet will love you for it.

And don’t forget to fill your cash box with a float!

Gail Stamp
Lead Instigator
The New Earth Expo

PS... Did I miss anything?  Please feel free to add to my list.  We're a community and as such, helping each other out is what we do best ...  🙂 

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